EXPLORING THE CENTRALITY OF SEX IN MARITAL SATISFACTION: FACTORS INFLUENCING SATISFACTION AND DISSATISFACTION AMONG MARRIED WOMEN IN LAGOS STATE, NIGERIA

Abstract

Sexual satisfaction is a core component of marital satisfaction, and lack of it has resulted in marriage collapse. Understanding of this critical aspect of marital life can provide insights that can help couples more fulfilling marital relationships, resilient unions and thus avoiding divorce. Therefore, this study explored the role of sexual intimacy in marriage, focusing on the factors that contributes to sexual satisfaction and dissatisfaction among married couples. The study employed interpersonal Exchange Model of Sexual Satisfaction as its theoretical underpinning. To achieve the purpose of the study, 12 married women and 5 marriage counsellors (a total of 17 respondents) were selected for in-depth interview conducted in Alimosho and Ikeja Local Government Areas of Lagos state, Nigeria. Sample were selected using a combination of purposive and snowball sampling method. Sex was reported to be important as it strengthened bond and helped to bridge gap between couples. Newlyweds were reported to be the most common of married couples who had sexual problems in marriage. Most respondents claimed to be sexually satisfied but they all shared sexually dissatisfied experiences. Lack of foreplay, timing of sex, religious restrictions, sexual incompatibility and differences in sexual appeal and lack of communication were identified to be causes of sexual dissatisfaction. Communication, understanding and studying one's partner and being open to sexual exploration, were factors identified to influence sexual satisfaction. The study recommends that couples should choose partners that shares his/her sexual fantasy to avoid frustration and sexual dissatisfaction overtime.